New “don’t say gay” contract for Catholic teachers – Faithful America

Dear Faithful America member,

The new “don’t say gay” teacher contract in Cincinnati Catholic schools could cost educators their jobs if they attend a gay family member’s wedding or share kind words with a bullied student.

The Archdiocese of Cincinnati just distributed a new 2014 teacher contract that not only bans teachers from leading a “homosexual lifestyle” or living with a partner outside of marriage, but prohibits “public support” for any position contradicting official church policies.

This new contract is the culmination of a growing right-wing crackdown in this archdiocese. In recent years, teachers and administrators have been fired for becoming pregnant by artificial insemination or writing personal blog posts supporting marriage equality.

Teachers have until the end of the school year to sign the contract, but local Catholics are already beginning to object. Let’s show the archbishop that there’s a growing national outcry calling for the church to start living up to Pope Francis’s call for a new tone.

Tell Cincinnati archbishop: Abandon “don’t say gay” teacher contract.


— Michael and Aaron

Back to questions

Ok, so I lost track of time and forgot about those 35 Questions until today.  Ready, set, back at it!

What are your values and are you being true to them? Write down the 3 most important aspects of each of these areas: family, romantic relationships, friends, work, health, sex and spirituality.  These are your values.  When we don’t act congruently with what we value, symptoms of discomfort arise.

This is an easy one for me.  The three most important aspects of my life in order of importance are my spirituality, my family and my job.  My life is definitely less stressful and more calm when I make decisions based on these aspects that I value.  When someone or something in my life does not “fit in” to my values, I am more apt to be unfocused and depressed.

At the beginning of 2013, I had a major life change when I ended a three-year relationship with my boy friend.  For three years, he fit in well with my values but eventually we stopped being “in love” and were more friends than anything.  Neither of us was willing or ready to relocate in order to be together for the long-term.  While we had great love and respect for each, our values changed.  Our relationship was not a top priority to either of us.  It was time to move on.

At first I was sad about my decision but when I put it in the perspective of what I value – God, family, and work – I can see that it .was the best decision for me.  I have had a basic plan for my life for about 10 years now.  I will continue teaching in Virginia until retirement (5-6 years away) and then move back to PA (my “home”) to be closer to my parents as they got older.  I plan to continue working in education in PA even if it is as a secretary or substitute teacher.  I cannot imagine doing anything else (Although I started working part-time in a winery six months ago and enjoy it!)

Will that plan change? It might because of extenuating circumstances but it will not change because I change my values.  In order to continue a long-term relationship with my ex boy friend, I would have had to change the things that are a priority me.  While the break up was sad, it wasn’t stressful once it was done.  Staying in the relationship and compromising my values would have been stressful.


Next Question

“Why don’t you do the things you know you should be doing? Life isn’t about figuring out what to do.  The real challenge is (not so) simply doing the things we know we should be doing.”

Most of the time if I am not doing what I know I should be doing, it is because of simple laziness.  For example, I know that I should be reading Scripture and reflecting on it daily.  I have downloaded three different apps to help me, I subscribe to two different mediations emails, and I keep my Bible next to my bed.  None of those “things” have helped me be more committed to Scripture reading.  I have to make the commitment internally, realizing the positive effect it will have on my life.  In a way, it is like any major life change – losing weight, quitting smoking, exercising, eating healthy.  Most of us WANT to do it but lack the willpower to follow through.

“I will start my diet Monday.”

“One more cigarette won’t hurt.”

 “It’s too cold to walk today.”

Whatever the excuse is, we have it.  Sadly I don’t even have an excuse for not reading the Bible daily.  I simply don’t do it.  No number of subscriptions, emails or apps is going to change that.  While they are great resources to assist me in this commitment, they won’t read it for me.  I have to stop not doing things I know I should be doing.

Answering the 35 Questions….

Yesterday, my cousin, Dr. Rob Furman, shared an article from Jason Nazar “The 35 Questions That Will Change Your Life”.  Intrigued by the title, I  decided to check it out and finding it interesting, I decided to tackle the 35 questions.  Doing that all in one blog entry though would be a tad cumbersome, so I will take one question a day to answer and comment on.  I am hoping that once I reach the 35 day, I will have learned something about myself although I am not holding my breath about it changing my life.

The first question

What are you pretending not to know?  All possibilities open up when we stop deceiving ourselves.

This is a tough one for me.  I am not sure if I am pretending not to know something or if I simply do not know it.  Know what I mean?  I could say though that in the past year, my life has been changed quite a bit.  Before I made numerous changes in the spring, one of the things I deceived myself about was my mental health.  It took several panic attacks and my general practitioner’s advice before I went to a therapist.  I had been in therapy before when I was having trouble in my first marriage but had not been since moving seven years ago.  I believed that I was okay and handling life pretty well.  Guess what? I wasn’t really.  I was just hiding my problems behind my happy, silly, lovable lady mask.

It took a partially dysfunctional relationship with a man who depended on me for everything to make me step back and say, “Whoa!” I realized, with the help of an excellent counselor, that I worried too much about how others saw me, I gave more in a relationship then I received, and I lived for the care, welfare, safety and security of others in my life rather than for my own needs.  That realization has allowed me to make changes in my life and to be happy for my sake, not others.  Now that doesn’t mean I have become a selfish, egocentric hag.  It simply means that I make sure I am okay before I take care of others.  Like on an airplane when the flight attendant teaches us to put on our own oxygen mask before assisting a young child, I now make sure that I can breathe freely before attending to the others around me.  I need to be okay before I can satisfactorily help anyone else.

Hmm…interesting thought process I evoked here.  Stay tuned for tomorrow’s question, “Why don’t you do the things you know you should be doing?”

Christmas Boxes for Kids in Need

November 4th 5pm-9pm
Donation Collection Night

They are in need of:

  • Plastic Shoe Boxes with Lids
  • Wrapping paper
  • Tape
  • Tissue paper
  • Toothbrushes
  • Toothpaste
  • Washcloths
  • Bar soap
  • Socks
  • Hair bows/ hair ties
  • Hair brushes / combs
  • Ball caps/ Knit hats
  • Sunglasses
  • Toys toys toys
  • Pens
  • Pencils
  • Paper supplies
  • Art supplies
  • Coloring books
  • Picture books
  • Music makers
  • Kazoos
  • Harmonicas
  • Tambourines
  • Fashion jewelry for girls
  • Bracelets
  • Necklaces
  • Watches
  • Rings
  • Toys for kids between the ages of 10-13 such as small board games and puzzles. We know they will not fit in a shoe box but we don’t want to leave these older kids out.

This is their first year doing this for the Powhatan Community. We are looking to forward to blessing needy children in our community. Our goal is to pack 200 boxes but we would love to pack many more.

Donations can be dropped off at Community Life Church, 2408 New Dorset Cr., Powhatan, VA Sundays from 9am to 12pm. Or you can call us (804-303-6431) and we can meet you and collect the donations any time that suits your needs. Thank you for helping give many kids something special this year.

If you would like to help but live out of town or want to donate cash or check please make payments payable to Community Life Church, memo Christmas boxes, Address 2555 Walkers Ridge Cr., Powhatan, VA 23139

Should students earn high-school credits in middle school?

Bill would let middle school students earn high school credits by Andrea Anderson

Lawmakers in Wisconsin are considering a bill that would allow students to receive high-school credit while in seventh and eighth grades. The credits would be offered for classes taught with high-school curricula and assessments by teachers certified to instruct in the upper grades. Supporters of the proposal say it would allow students to go on to college early or offer them more flexibility to study other subjects or participate in work-study programs in high school.


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